Sunday, November 8, 2009

BOLDNESS

Be Bold by Having Nothing to Hide By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974

“Conscience does make cowards of all,” declared Shakespeare. But when you haven’t faulted or defaulted, you can be bold. You won’t flinch when associates speak of an object that was stolen – you didn’t take it. You won’t blush when friends speak of some ugly gossip that was started – you had nothing to do with it. You won’t cringe when someone knocks on the door – you haven’t wronged anybody. You won’t run when a policeman stops in front of your house – you know he is not after you.

This is more manly than seeking cover at the shuffle of every leaf. Having nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear. Unafraid, you can look every man in the eye.

Oh! How courage strengthens! And oh! How much we need it.

Proverbs 28:1, 1:33, 13:15

Jay’s Thoughts on “Be Bold by Having Nothing to Hide”

How easy it is to bend the truth to conform to the situation. How easy to give an inch when attempting to hold the long mile. True courage is quite, strong and constant. Such courage is based upon the knowledge that truth, honor and action conquer fear in all its forms. Being Bold are the actions justified by true courage earned honestly. Live right, be bold and have no fear.

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay

Thursday, November 5, 2009

ASSOCIATES

Watch Your Associates

Every time you pick an associate you could be picking a little chunk of your destiny. For there is power in associations. Evil associates corrupt good morals and destroy bright futures. Prodigality begins with naughty influence. Don’t let the wrong people turn you into the wrong person. Don’t permit corrupt associations to dissipate your youth, or debauch your middle age, or squander what could be your golden years.

It is smart to refuse a close association with those who would lead you into un-fulfillment and forlorn hope and forlorn hope. Life can be too meaningful to allow the wasters of mankind to waste it.

Proverbs 29:9, 23:9, 18:2, 26:4; 4:14, 15



Like Eddie Lopez says... we need to Keep It KISS.



I had a friend tell me once... that if you hang around with dogs sooner or later you will get flea's. I have tried to remember this and manage my relationships accordingly. Remember this is strictly a metaphor. I have nothing against dogs but I don't like flea's. My wife changes my flea collar at least once a month so as to assure I don't get fleas. Ruf Ruf. Not funny... I know please forgive it's been a long day.

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay

Sunday, November 1, 2009

ASCENDANCY

Don’t Get Higher Than You Can Hold
By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974

To be picked up and placed high on the ladder of progress is no assurance that you won’t get dizzy and fall off. However, ascending gradually gets you accustomed to the heights, and develops your muscles to hold.

Solid advancement is on the foundation you have laid. There set your ladder for the assurance the bottom won’t drop out.

Build today, then, strong and sure,
With a firm and ample base;
And ascending and secure
Shall tomorrow find its place.

-Henry Wadsworth Longfellow


Climbing has it perils (you may fall off), but staying on the ground has its hazards, too (something may fall on you). Climb, but don’t climb faster than your strength will let you will let you stay. And be nice to the people you pass on the way up, for you might need a friendly hand to break your fall on the way back down. With this spirit you are apt to stay.

Proverbs 25:7

Jay’s Thoughts on “Don’t Get Higher Than You Can Hold”

Climbing Mount Everest requires incredible amount of desire, training, patience and dogged persistence not to mention the capital required to get to the mountain. Mount Everest is the highest point on the earth at 29,035 feet above sea level.

The walk into base camp takes about three (3) weeks and represents a beautiful trek with a steady climb to 17,388 feet above sea level. Normally, the climb to the summit is headed up by a Veteran Mountaineer who has reached the summit of Mount Everest several times and may include as many as eight(8)to ten (10) climbers although the largest group to attempt the summit was from China and included 410 climbers. The Veteran Mountaineer is a seasoned climber and makes all decisions relative to the ascent. He is responsible to assure the team gets to the summit and back safely.

There are four (4) camps, above base camp, on the trip to the summit and a number of support staff at base camp. Climbers start by climbing to Camp 1 and acclimating to the lower oxygen levels. Most climbers must use supplemental oxygen in order to reach the summit. They will climb up to the various camps above and back down to base camp to rest. Realize that at these heights the lack of oxygen places unusual stresses on the human body.

The Veteran Mountaineer is watchful and protective of his team. He watches for weak spots in the ice, oxygen related sickness, and other potential hazards. Weather also plays a role in the ability to achieve the summit and the window to summit is very small. The Veteran Mountaineer must be willing to take a calculated risk just to position the team to summit. The Veteran Mountaineer having reached the summit in prior climbs realizes the risks and will not move the team faster than their abilities. Once the summit is reached the view is magnificent but now the real challenge starts. Tired after the summit the danger of the descent is magnified. One wrong step places the entire team at risk. At these heights there is no margin of error and most loss of human life happens during the descent. This paragraph does not explain even close to the number of challenges involved in climbing Mount Everest but it does provide the encouragement to find out more if interested.

Tying a Mount Everest climb to the topic “Don’t Get Higher Than You Can Hold”; is recognizing that for each of us to achieve our goals we must take a risks. We must be willing to accept help from many people along the way and we must do the hard work required in order to achieve the summit of our goals. We must be disciplined and persistent as we climb. Realizing that there may be times when we are force to strategically fall back. Therefore, we must assure that we have developed relationships that will provide a helping hand to slow our descent in the event we slip or fall. Hopefully, your hard work, discipline and persistent will prevent the slips or falls that life may bring your way.

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

ARGUING

Never Argue With Some People
By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974

A rash man said: “I know I am ignorant. I am glad I’m ignorant. I just hope I get ignoranter.”

The resigning and gentle reply was, “I’m sure your ambition will be realized.”

This was better than contending with him. Why reason with one you cannot help? Why argue with one who will later turn and rend you? It would be casting pearls before swine – allowing a fool to make a fool of you.

Some People can’t argue. They can batter you with irony, cut you with sarcasm, smear you with acid and blister you with anger, but they can’t argue. They are good at appealing to prejudice, but poor at appealing to logic. And when they lose they call you names.

Proverbs 29:9, 23:9, 18:2, 26:4

Jay’s Thoughts on “Never Argue With Some People”

The experts sources listed below will explain the value of “Never Arguing With Some People” much better than I ever could have. This is a relatively long blog but the messages contained I think are worth the read. Please read at your convenience and enjoy.

Ben Franklin used to say: “If you argue and rankle and contradict, you may achieve a victory sometimes; but it will be an empty victory because you will never get your opponent’s good will.

In an article borrowed from Bits & Pieces,* some suggestions are made on how to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument:

Welcome the disagreement. Remember the slogan, “When two partners always agree, on of them in not necessary.” If there is some point you haven’t thought about, be thankful is it is brought to your attention. Perhaps the disagreement is your opportunity to be corrected before you make a serious mistake.

Distrust your first instinctive impression. Our first natural reaction is a disagreeable situation is to be defensive. Be careful. Keep calm and watch out for your first reaction. It may be you at your worst no your best.

Control your temper. Remember, you can measure the size of a person by what makes him or her angry.

Listen first. Give you opponents a chance to talk. Let them finish. Do not resist, defend or debate. This only raises barriers. Try to build bridges of understanding. Don’t build higher barriers of misunderstanding.

Look for areas of agreement. When you have heard your opponents out, dwell first on the points and areas of which you agree.

Be honest. Look for areas where you can admit error and say so. Apologize for your mistakes. It will help disarm your opponents and reduce defensiveness.

Promise to think over your opponent’s ideas and study them carefully. And mean it. Your opponents may be right. It is a lot easier at this stage to agree to think about their points than to move rapidly ahead and find yourself in a position where your opponents can say: “We tried to tell you but you wouldn’t listen

Thank your opponents sincerely for their interest. Anyone who takes the time to disagree with you is interested it the same things you are. Think of them as people who really want to help you, and you may turn your opponents into friends.

Postpone action to give both sides time to think through the problem. Suggest that a new meeting be held later that day or the next day, when all the facts may be brought to bear. In preparation for a hard meeting, ask yourself some hard questions:

Could my opponent be right? Partly right? Is there truth or merit in their position or argument? Is my reaction one that will relieve the problem, or will it just relieve any frustration? Will my reaction drive my opponent away or draw them closer to me? Will my reaction elevate the estimation good people have of me? Will I win or lose? What price will I have to pay if I win? If I am quiet about it, will the disagreement blow over? Is this difficult situation an opportunity for me?


This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay

* Bits and Pieces, published by the The Economics Press, Fairfield, N.J.

Sunday, October 25, 2009

ANSWERS

Give Right Answers
By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974


If you open your mouth, do it wisely. If the answer is faulty, at least the tone can be soft. Of course, some questions don’t deserve and answer.

Just as every mathematical sum has a right answer whether the mathematician knows it or not, so ever human problem has a correct answer whether man gives it or not. You may not always give it; for if you have all the answers, you haven’t had all the questions. But try. And as you succeed, more questions will come – along with honor, success, and joy for you and the world.

Proverbs 24:26, 14:3, 15:28, 26:4, 31:26

Jay’s Thoughts on “Give Right Answers”

What a great topic. The message hit me right between the eyes. This is much needed guidance and a subject that I could and should have pondered long ago.

How we approach our answers to the questions asked by family members, friends, customers, trade partners, our team mates and new acquaintances ultimately test us and set the stage for the many relationships that are built over a life time. Hence, no matter what… the answer can be genuinely given even when there is no proper answer. Those that challenge your patience, intelligence and experience deserve your best answers as well.

Finding the answer to a well asked question may require research and study. Our answer forces us to challenge our assumptions and recognize that “things do change over time”. Yesterday’s answer may not be sufficient to answer today’s question.

It’s not what you say; it’s how you say it. A thoughtless answer given to a sincere question hurts both the questioner and the giver of the answer. Honor, success and joy reside in resisting the temptation to give thoughtless answers.

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay

Wednesday, October 21, 2009

Anger

Be Slow to Anger
By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974

Be calm. Hot heads boil fast and let off steam, wasting energy. You can’t win in life’s contest by squandering your energy in wild fury. Wrath is a victory for folly – defeat for the person.

Horace, the Latin poet who died in 8 B.C., said, “Anger is a short madness.” A madness that spurs one to do what he normally would not say. A madness that spurs on to do what he normally would not do. A madness that he later regrets.

One way to lessen your anger is to be in the right. People in the wrong get angry faster. Another way is to think. Some people use wrath as a substitute for thinking. And still a third way, be unselfish. The more self-centered one is, the more easily his temper is ignited.

Proverbs 16:32, 14:17, 15:18, 27:3, 29:22

Jay’s Thoughts on Anger – Three (3) wishes

anger
n 1: a strong emotion; a feeling that is oriented toward some
real or supposed grievance

Three (3) wishes

1. I wish I had a nickel for every time that I got angry and said something that I had to apologize for later.
2. I wish that I could see how ridiculous I looked as I am getting angry, with righteous indignation.
3. I wish that I could live the rest of my life and never once be angry.

I told Dave Matlock this evening that I tried last night to write a blog on anger but had to stop because I got to angry to write. Wow, that is pretty lame. The problem was that I just could not find words to define how angry it makes me, at me, to get angry.

The good news is that I have three (3) wishes and I am trying harder than ever to not get angry. I know I can control my anger if I care enough about how I am perceived by my family, friends, co-workers and anyone else I come into contact with. I know I can do it.

Wrap up:

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

By the way... after due consideration and a better understanding of the time required to keep up a daily blog with my limited writing skills... I will limit myself to two blogs a week. I will post my blogs on Monday and Thursday.

Very Respectfully,

Jay

Monday, October 19, 2009

Adversity

Adversity
Stand Up to Adversity
By: Leroy Brownlow copyright 1974

Adversity comes to everybody sooner or later. It slows all men down for a while; it knocks many down, some get up, others stay down and get trampled. It’s the man that gets up the most times after he is knocked down that wins.

Taking heart to meet adversity can be you ladder whereby you climb to greater heights. Sorrow can turn to joy; poverty can lead to riches; and persecution can be the occasion for heroics. But you can’t climb flat on your back. You’ll have to get on your feet.

Many of our troubles are due to the world’s dragging us; and they would end if we would stand up to them. Stand! Stand! And keep standing! And keep moving! It’s hard to lose while on your feet.

Proverbs 24:10, 12:13, 8:14

Jay’s Thoughts on Adversity:

Definition: adversity [ədˈvɜːsɪtɪ] n pl -ties

1. distress; affliction; hardship
2. an unfortunate event or incident

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged 6th Edition 2003. © William Collins Sons & Co. Ltd 1979, 1986 © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2003


We have all experienced adversity at some point in our lives. For me, adversity always comes when I least expect it. When I am absolutely comfortable and unprepared, adversity comes in low and hard like a 280 pound NFL linebacker. Adversity comes with no mercy and no forgiveness. Adversity makes me question everything I believe in and challenges my core values. Adversity is like a slap in the face. A wake up call to maintain my Plan A, Plan B & Plan C.

Minimizing Adversity requires that one be prepared for anything that life brings. Preparation requires the discipline to do the little things everyday that will provide the strength to overcome adversity when it comes. Little things like financial discipline, physical discipline, work discipline, spiritual discipline, mental discipline.

Overcoming adversity simply requires one to have faith. Well maybe it is not really simple because I speak of the deepest kind of faith. A faith that demands we get up when knocked down and keep moving forward one step at a time. We find the kind of faith that metaphorically moves mountains. We find a faith so strong that we are able to look fear in the face and smile back unafraid. The kind of faith that Never, Never, Never, Never gives up. You know what I mean! Faith!

When adversity comes, we find a way, or make a way, to dig deep inside our being to find the faith required for us to overcome adversity, no matter how adverse the situation.

Like Eddie Lopez says, we need to Keep It, KISS. So let's Keep It, Kiss.

This is Jay McJunkin signing off... Remember "if you think you can or think you can't... you are right"! Now go out and make something happen!!!

Very Respectfully,

Jay